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Sunday, 19 April 2015

Why I Miss the Way Blogging Used To Be

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Sometimes I can't quite believe I started this blog 4 years ago.  I've shared a lot over that amount of time and even though my rambles are mostly beauty related, I see my blog as much more than a place to share my opinions on cosmetics and make-up...it's become almost like a diary for me.  As silly as it sounds, I often sit and read through my older posts - I find it so interesting to read back and see how much I've changed as a person. Bird's Words has seen me go through so much - starting uni, finishing uni, quitting jobs, beginning new jobs, break-ups, tough times, happy times - I feel like I've been writing this blog through so many different transitions and stages of my life that it's genuinely become part of me and who I am. When I published my first ever post, I never knew just how much of a big part of myself it would become or how many opportunities it would bring me. It became much more than just a beauty blog - it became an outlet and a distraction for me when I was feeling down, yet it also became a place for me to share my personal successes and happiness - it's been a complete joy to write.  For me, my blog is a massive positive and something that I've grown so attached to and proud of during those few years.  I can remember exactly who I was, what I was doing and how I felt even through the shortest blog post about a random lipstick. It's such a nice thing to have and all this time I've been writing, I've been  unknowingly creating this little document containing snippets of my life for the past 4 years. I feel so lucky to have it.

I've always shared the negative with the positive on this blog and although it makes me sad to continue with this post, it's something that's been playing on my mind for weeks and weeks and it seemed silly not to share it - like I'm ignoring a massive elephant in the room. If you've been reading my blog for a long time, then you might have noticed a slight change the past few weeks and I feel as if I should be honest about the way things are -both with myself and my readers.  I guess I just haven't been feeling as motivated as usual to keep up with my schedule - I'm sure we all feel like that from time to time (i stand by the fact that bloggers-block syndrome is real) but this time it feels a lot different. Usually if I've felt a bit de-motivated,  it's been a fleeting moment influenced by working a lot or university deadlines - but this time it's much more than that - it's almost like I'm now at a crossroads in some way where I need to make the decision whether or not to continue doing something I've loved doing for so long, or stop. 

I'll be completely honest and say that at the moment I feel like I'm blogging for bloggings sake. If anybody ever asked me 'when will you stop?' - my answer was always the same - 'I can't see myself ever stopping but the moment when it stops making me happy - i'll call it a day'.  Honestly, I never actually thought there would be a day where I didnt love every second of my little blogging journey - but at the moment I don't enjoy this the way I used to and I'm not entirely sure I'm doing it for fun anymore - it's become more out of habit. Don't get me wrong, once I get into writing a post, I'm reminded why I love being a blogger, but I'd be lying if I said I feel the same as I used to about it.  I've questioned why I'm carrying on despite feeling less than chipper about it and the truth is, it makes me feel so sad to let such a big part of my life go - if you're a blogger you'll understand just how much influence it has over your life and I'm not entirely sure I'm ready to call it quits on something I've loved for so long.  Deep down I don't think I actually want to stop - but there's a couple of things recently that really have completely changed my mindset about blogging and, quite frankly, it's become clear to me that it's impossible for me to overlook these things.  I questioned at first whether or not the way i've been feeling is because of new work commitments and life changes, but almost 3 months later - it's becoming clear as day that it's simply not the case.   The truth is - I'm falling out of love with blogging. There, I've said it.  But I have no doubt in my mind why I've been feeling this way and it's by no means because I've simply gotten 'bored'. 

Blogging is an amazing hobby - you don't realise it when you begin but sooner or later down the line, you're introduced to the whole online community of like-minded beauty enthusiasts that share your interests and it's almost as if a whole new world opens up...your blog becomes much more than somewhere to share an opinion.  You learn new things, discover all sorts you never would have before, open new doors for yourself and what's more - you develop genuine friendships.  Familiar faces pop up in your comments box, a tweet from a favourite blogger or an email from a reader completely makes your day and if you're ever having a bad time - you know that somebody, somewhere will listen. The community spirit surrounding blogging truly has amazed me in the past and I can honestly say there's a select handful of people that I am so glad to have met and spoken to because of blogging...genuine people I've developed a genuine bond with all of which has stemmed from a few words in a comments box - it's amazing.  But as with all things, there's a negative side to it all too.  Everybody always seems to comment on the supportive spirit of blogging - but if you scratch the surface - is it really what everybody makes it out to be? Because I'm not entirely convinced that it is anymore and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only blogger who thinks this way.

There's no doubt that blogging is not what it was a few years ago when I began writing.  It's developed into something way bigger - we now live in a world where people make millions from sitting behind a camera in their bedroom and people have the potential to make good money from their writing.  Don't get me wrong, as a blogger I think that it's fantastic - I'm sure if you're a blogger too you'll know just how much work and time it takes to publish content on a regular basis and I think it's a great thing that people are able to make money from doing something they love and pour so much of their personal time into (let's face it - it can become almost like a second job at times!)  However, I do think it's made blogging a lot more competitive and results focused - it's losing that element of spontaneity as well as slowly taking away the fun, carefree element.  A blog post doesn't stop at scribbling down your opinion anymore - it seems as if it's more about who can take the best photographs,  who has the best layout, who has the most followers or comments and who gets noticed the most...everything seems to be focused around follower numbers and popularity. For some reason, it all seemed much more genuine to me at the beginning. There were no unwritten rules and it all seemed a much more positive, friendly and supportive place to be. I guess i just miss the spontaneous nature of the way things were 3 or 4 years ago...it was much more humble and there were no pressures whatsoever to blog a certain way. You just did what you wanted to do - you created your blog your way, there wasn't so much focus on sharing your entire life via social media and if someone stumbled upon your blog - then great. Everybody who blogged was blogging for the same reason - simply because they wanted to and loved doing it. There was no competition or rivalry whatsoever. Is it just me who sometimes misses the simple days of following a blog via GFC? When Bloglovin' was introduced, everything shifted in my opinion. If a blog didn't have a follow button I simply added it to a bookmark on my computer regardless - now it seems that your blog only gets noticed if you have a full set of social media icons and a bloglovin' button with an impressive number. 

In my opinion it's slowly changed the way blogging used to be.  Without giving this too much context, some of you might be aware that I found myself at the end of some accusations at the beginning of the year - and I have to say, that was without a doubt the turning point for me and I've never really felt the same way about blogging since if I'm being completely upfront and honest.  It was like a switch overnight. Before it all, the thought of stopping never crossed my mind and I was so enthusiastic and motivated with my blog - probably more so than ever. But it's completely altered my thoughts on the blogging world and has made me feel so negative and down about the entire thing and try as I might, I just cannot shift it. Everybody has a negative comment from time to time but this was different.  I just really don't think the same thing would have happened a few years ago and it's a shame that blogging has developed such a side to it. Over the years, I've seen a few bloggers find themselves at the receiving end of criticism for one reason or another - some of them I would have classed as favourite reads of mine. I've watched them completely drop off the scale and quit blogging almost instantly and I find it so sad that a comment or two on a computer screen can have such an effect on someone.  I often wondered why they would stop all because of a few words but I have to say - I completely understand now. When blogging is such a big part of your life, of course it's going to effect you on a personal level when negative things are said.  When your integrity has been questioned also - as mine has - it's extremely difficult to move on and forget...especially when you literally can't do a thing about it (and believe me, I've tried). It's so incredibly frustrating - I can't even begin to put it in to words. I've had people I've always noticed pop up in my comments box completely disappear, I've read things about myself and my blog that simply aren't true in the slightest - in fact, I'm pretty sure I've read posts on the subject - and if you haven't had it happen to you then it's hard to imagine how it feels. You can't not take it personally. 
You can read a thousand positive comments on your blog but still only remember the negative ones and I'm not going to sit here and pretend it's not bothered me - because it has.  I've actually sat in tears on my boyfriend's sofa telling him about all of this and I've had endless conversations with friends and colleagues and it's just made me think - if this is what blogging has become - is it really worth it? Some might say that's dramatic and it's silly to read so much into a negative response or comment, but I'm just the type of person who doesn't take well to things like this and as a result, I've lost all enthusiasm for something which I used to love overnight. Not everybody on the internet has a thick skin and I think that's important to remember. It really has gotten to me on much more of a personal level than I would have imagined and I completely salute all the 'big' bloggers and Youtubers out there who have to deal with hate, accusations and gossip on a regular basis.  I raise my hat to you. I couldn't do it.  The internet can be a cruel place.

I guess what I'm saying is that I'm not entirely sure what the future holds for Bird's Words anymore and that there are reasons why I feel this way...it's not because I've gotten bored, or can't be bothered, or that life has got in the way, or even that i particularly want to stop...and I guess I just wanted to highlight that fact. I still plow through my reading list on my lunch break, I still buy products and 'save' them because I want to photograph them looking all pretty and I still find myself jotting down ideas for posts - the beauty obsessive blogger is still here somewhere - but I'm struggling at the moment to take the plunge and get back to where I was. Of course, if I do decide to take a break then there's no reason why I might not come back or start again in the future once I feel ready - I like to think that I would  - but I hate doing things by halves.
I still have a few posts I want to write so I won't drop completely off the face of the earth, I just reckon it might be time to step back, re-evaluate and twiddle my thumbs for a while until I know where I stand with my blog and the bloggosphere in general. 

Anyway, before I ramble on any further, I shall end this post here (I've written an actual book here haven't I?) I have no idea where I've been going with this if I'm completely honest - I reckon I'm writing it more for my own benefit (isn't it funny how blogging can be a form of therapy!?) - I guess I just wanted to be completely honest about the way things are.  Like I said, I've always shared the negative with the positive and I just wanted to let other bloggers out there who maybe feel or have felt this way in the past that you're certainly not alone. I really hope that a little downtime will do me good and I'll be back to my old blogging ways in the near future.  Before I tottle off, I just wanted to say that your support has not gone un-noticed. Honestly. Thankyou so so much to those of you who have carried on reading and commenting - you're the reason I've continued despite feeling less than chirpy about the blogging world and you really have spurred me on... thank you to each and every one of you for making writing my blog such a wonderful experience.

*P.S - I apologise this post was so long - I did try to cut some jibber-jabber out but it made sense for it to just be a completely honest ramble - not planned :)


Lots of love xx

64 comments:

  1. This was such a sad post to read Beth. You're one of my all time favourite bloggers and you have been since I started blogging over 2 years ago now, I'd even go as far to say that you were one of the reasons I started blogging and created this hobby for me that took me out of such a bad place in my life. However I completely understand why you feel this way. About a year ago I was on the receiving end of nasty comments and it really does get you down. I also agree with how Bloglovin has changed things, it's like everything is about hitting milestones recently instead of sharing your opinion on the things you love!

    Obviously I really hope you don't stop (I've been missing your regular posts already!) but I completely understand why you'd want to. What they did to you was disgusting and I dont think anyone should be made to feel that way, especially when it's based on false allegations from jealous others!

    Becky xx

    Lipgloss & Lashes

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  2. aww this was so sad to read as i'm in love with your blog and it must've been hard for you to write this. i do see what you mean by blogging being very numbers/followers based now and a competition of who can take the best photographs. i hope you can find that love once again as you're a genuine blogger and it would be a shame to lose you!

    Rachel // Style Soup

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  3. I really appreciate your honesty in this post, even the negative. Take a break, maybe stop blogging for a while, then come back! Blogging can be whatever you want it to be :)

    RachelShuchatMakeup

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  4. You should be so proud of yourself! I loved reading this, and despite only blogging for two years myself, I've been such a fan and wanted to say what a joy it is to read your posts. Although I haven't been 'hated' on as such yet, I would completely understand your choice if you were to have a break (but here's to hoping you don't, simply because I would miss your posts haha) I know how you feel though about blogging changing, but sometimes I still like to have a good old ramble!

    I wish you all the best for the future sweetie,

    Meg ♡
    http://meg-riley.blogspot.co.uk/

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  5. Beth whilst I can't relate personally to the criticism you had regarding all the drama last year I can relate to the feelings about blogging changing and being what I now think is a rat race. It is crazy to think how it has all changed, I feel like company's have waded in somehow and affected so many with PR samples left right and centre and paid opportunities; whilst they're not all bad I do think it has had a negative effect overall.

    Personally I love Bloglovin but it is no longer a very fair platform in terms of discovering new blogs. I feel like it favours the top bloggers which isn't something I like, although I'm sure it used to be different before yet changes in the last six months or so have changed the way we find blogs.

    I sure hope you start to feel better about blogging, it is despite the negative side a really enjoyable thing to be doing on a whole, there are also as you have alluded to some pretty awesome people in it too. I do think that blogging and everything that goes with it can be very fickle at times however we just have to try and look past it and remember why we originally started.

    Take care Beth! :)

    Amy xx

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  6. I started blogging around 4 years ago too and I totally agree with you about how it's all changed! I still love it but I don't like the competition and rivalry. I feel kind of sorry for anyone who's thinking of starting a blog now as they're just going to feel so much pressure but back when we started no one had DLSR's or knew what SEO was. I'm sorry you've lost the love for a hobby you once loved and I'm sorry about all the online stuff you've had to put up with x

    Josie’s Journal

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  7. Aw it's so sad to read this... I don't think I've been following your blog for that long and I've only been blogging myself for a couple of months... I really do believe there was a time before the popularity-race for money, followers and sponsors. I find myself in a place on the internet where I discover other people who have just started out and blog for fun and love meeting other people as well and talking to fellow bloggers, so I don't think I'm already in that position to complain about the situation. Too bad you feel this way, I really hope you do what's best for you :) Take care xx

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  8. I'm so sorry to hear that you feel this way. I haven't been blogging for a long time but I have followed the 'blogosphere' for a good 5 years and it's changed so massively in that time. I feel like it's more about exposure and becoming 'famous' sometimes, over something as simple as writing a good honest review. I miss the days that the blogging world wasn't clouded with PR samples and advertisements. I understand everything has to change, but I'm sometimes unsure where all this is heading. I think in times like these it's best just to back off from the situation and just let things take their course. I hope everything goes the way you want it to go rather than the way you feel it should.
    Jodie xo // JodieLoue

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  9. What a post! I can totally see where you're coming from. Everything about the blogsphere has changed so much, more so in the last 12 months! The YouTubers are taking over, the 'big' bloggers are not too far behind them, and everyone else is playing a numbers game. It feels like every man and his dog are creating blogs these days to score freebies or make easy money - hah, if it only it was that easy, but these 5 second bloggers are so quick to shoot the rest of us down. Its so disheartening.

    Sometimes we nee to take a break in order to find the love and passion for a hobby again. Maybe you'll stay, maybe you'll go, but at the end of the day you've got to do what's right for you and if you don't feel like you're putting your heart into it, what's the point? I've said the exact same thing as you, I'll stop when it's no fun any more. As soon as blogging becomes a chore it's lost it's sparkle for me!

    Hoping you feel better about it all, and whatever decision you make, you're community it behind you :)

    Sarah :)
    Saloca in Wonderland

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  10. This was a really sad post to read but all rather new for me as I have just started a blog. I agree with what you have said about everything relying on numbers now, I don't like to display my follower account on my blog because of what it now means to not have many followers, I feel as if it actually puts readers off! Also, all these new feed and subscriber website such as Bloglovin really do place so much value in followers and numbers so that they really favour bigger blogs. xx

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  11. This was so sad to read. You were the first blog I discovered when I started blogging and I only wish I found it sooner now! I'm so sorry you've had to deal with negative comments, that must have been awful.
    I totally understood what you was saying about followers, as I'm still fairly new I hate having my follower count being shown and its so hard to ignore the number side of my blog.
    Anyway, I hope everything goes ok for you and hopefully you'll be back soon (but it doesn't matter, if you're not)
    Lots of love
    Jessica
    http://thebirdsandbutterflies.blogspot.co.uk

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  12. Hi Beth, your blog has almost broken my heart. I am very new to blogging and to be honest, for me like it is for you, is a way of sharing my passion for clothes and beauty. It is my personal journal on things I find are worth sharing. I aim to inform and make readers enjoy my posts, and right now am not sure what the outcome will be. I am not here to make a profit, but to write, which is something I love. If people criticise what we do is because they are insecure and jealous of someone else's success. I hope your blogging continues because like many others, I pretty much look forward to reading your posts.
    All the best, Isabel xx
    www.isabelbeautydiary.com

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  13. What an honest post. I totally understand what you mean about how the blogging world has changed but there are still so many people here doing it as a hobby that they genuinely enjoy - like myself! Take as much time as you need and hoping you'll be feeling better about your blog soon - it's one of the first I found and I still love it! x
    http://cocoamay.blogspot.co.uk

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  14. You should know that 99.9% of us will always be supportive and stand by your decisions and respect them and it'll always be hard to not let the negativity effect you which of course will always be there.
    It started as a hobby and something that made you happy but it's good to know in the back of your mind that if you fall out of love wit it now it 2 years time you may have a sudden urge to write again and the fact that you can always come back will be nice to know for when you do actually decide on stopping!
    AllysDays.blogspot.com

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  15. Hi Beth, I've been following your blog for years and although I don't comment that often I want to let you know that your blog has inspired me so much. It's sad to hear you don't feel the same way about blogging as you used to - and I can relate. Especially nowadays, it's difficult to put content out there that you're passionate about and want to talk about when the whole point of blogging has changed. Whatever you decide, I'll back you 100% and I hope you keep smiling, because thats whats really important.

    Bhavna x

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  16. I hate how you feel that way. I agree that blogging has changed over the years(even though I started my blog in 2013). I'm pretty sure that every single reader of yours will choose to support you with whatever decision you make. Your happiness and well being is all that matters but whatever you do, please do not let any negative comments get to you. You're a fantastic writer, blogger, a beautiful girl and you have a brilliant blog. It would be such a shame if you was to stop but you have my support 100% x

    Lauren
    Www.beautydivisionblog.co.uk

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  17. This was such a sad post to read :( You were one of the first blogs I ever started reading and a blogger I have always looked up to and admired. In fact, you've inspired me in many ways in terms of photography and things to write and I always love reading your advice posts. However, I do understand your point. I love the blogging community but I can't help but feel that there is so much drama circulating these days. It's a real shame.

    I truly hope that you don't finish blogging for good as I love your blog so much, but there does come a point when you have to question truly what's best. I hope that the beauty blogger, that is still very much alive, comes through so that I can continue to read your ramblings, as they are some of my absolute favourites to read. xxxxx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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  18. Your words resonate with me to so much Beth, and it's so refreshing to read such an open, honest post. I'm really upset that you feel this way but I totally get it. I just received what it my first ever negative comment over on my blog which began with 'no offence but...' you know, the usual. But since it's my first and probably won't be the last, I see it as a good sign rather than a bad one. Haters are either jealous or just plain pathetic, so rather than reading into it I've seen it is a chance to appreciate that my writing is getting me somewhere.

    Your success is huge and I'm absolutely 100% sure your readership including myself, will always be there to support you and not leave your side if you need a slight break. Its healthy. You're so right, if you start losing love for something that once made you happy but now hasn't quite got that spark anymore, it is something that needs to be acted upon. Whether you leave blogging for good, take a break or just reassess your lifestyle or change something in your life, it's worth doing for you. You're worth much more than a following count or blogging prestige.

    I hope you feel much better soon, we'll always support whatever it is that makes you smile because thats what matters most.

    Jessica Anna | A So Called Beauty Blog

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  19. Such a great post Beth :) I totally get where your coming from and it's nothing to be ashamed of the fact your not sure about your blogs future. I have felt the same at times and it's such a struggle. You're seriously one of my favourite bloggers and I was so upset when I seen those comments about you, as your such a genuine lovely girl - Please don't go though! You inspire so many people :)

    ❤ The Jewel Beauty Blog ❤ || Chanel Beauty Haul

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  20. I couldn't empathsise with this post. I've been blogging for years and it was always very much an outlet and place to chat to likeminded indviduals. Whilst I can't complain about the fruits of blogging in today's place where I receive beauty samples galore and attend fabulous events I do miss the community where bloggers were friends, and commented because they wanted to say hello or were truly interested in what you had done over the wekends and so on.

    Now it's very much making sure the photo is correct, you've promoted via social media and have stats ready when requested.

    I'm not planning to stop any time soon as I do enjoy it as a hobby and one that pushes me to 'improve' but equally I often have to remember that if I'd rather spend the weekend with friends than perfecting the flat lay image and writing words to engage PRs rather than readers then it's not a bad thing.

    Victoria x
    FlorenceandMary.com

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  21. Your blog is an absolute pleasure to read, and if you were to take a break from blogging I think your readers will be right here waiting for you if you decide to come back. Sometimes it does us the world of good to take a step back and figure out what we want to do. Xx

    ♥ Carly's Beauty World - A UK Hair, Beauty & Lifestyle Blog ♥

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  22. I know exactly what you mean, I've spent so much time worrying about nasty comments and all sorts about my blog - there's a lot more pressure which leads to a lot more accusations and nastiness out there. It's changed a lot but at the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy.

    PhotoJennic

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  23. I'm a relatively new blogger so I've sort of come into this from the starting point of all the things you describe, however I blogged in 2012 and it was very insular, it was just for me. Only last year did I decide I was going to do "serious" blogging, i.e. blogging every day and having it consume my life. I see all the money and sponsorships and changes in attitudes and I definitely notice ways it influences me and others (I keep seeing some cookie cutter blog posts on 100 different blogs - not that I'm really bothered, because people can do what they want, but it is something I've noticed - a certain homogenous feel cropping up across blogs).

    I think everyone needs a good step back every once in a while. We are human beings, not blogging machines. So go do something that makes you happy, and if/when you come back, do it for you. Do everything for you.
    x

    ✿ my blog ✿

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  24. I completely understand where you are coming from! It's so hard to not get wrapped up in what everyone else is doing...especially when at the moment there seems to be a storm of "Blogging Tips" and "Blogging How To" posts telling you what you should and shouldn't do to be successful.

    I've always described my blog as an online thought journal, just documenting whatever I wanted to. But lately, I've just not been feeling it either. Being so busy doesn't help, but I've not wanted to take the time to sit down and do anything because I feel guilty for not sticking to a schedule - which apparently is what you're supposed to do to 'have a good blog.'

    Makes me sad too. Hopefully it's just a phase and we will come back with a parade!

    www.ceejayell.blogspot.co.uk

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  25. I think I get you. I've been blogging for a year and I find that at times it becomes about numbers and things instead of about the content of the blogs.
    I'm sorry to hear you had issues beginning of the year.

    Jenn | Enter my Prairie Charms giveaway!

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  26. Doll it honestly makes me so sad because your blog is one of the few that I've been following for ages, and the injustice of what happened to you still makes me angry. I can't take bullying like that, it's like mean girls in 2015, and the most ironic thing is that those same people do posts and tweets about how you shouldn't care what others do or that it's not a competition or pretend to be so nice, when they're NOT! I can't handle it, just be who you are. I'm too outspoken to pretend to be anything else. Anyway, that was a little rant but I just wanted to say I completely understand how you feel and can't blame you for how you feel as I would most likely have the same feelings. I'll continue to follow you on other social media platforms and your blog, you're just the sweetest and I'll miss your social presence too much. I do wish you the very best and in Jaclyn Hill's words: "You do you boo"!! Lots of Love xo

    Dressed in the City ♥♥♥

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  27. Ugh I'm so sorry to hear that you feel this way.

    Taking a break isn't the worst idea. I'm sad to say that I've abandoned my blog many times in the past due to work overloads and college and have managed to lose most of my following that took me so long to gain, but somehow I'm always drawn back to it and it's a great way to stay productive when things are quiet and as you said to express yourself. I've also been blogging for four years now and the amount of followers I have has never bothered me, Sure for the first year I posted almost every day knowing that nobody was reading except me and my mam! haha.. I just love that I can go back and look at posts from four years ago and remember what I was loving and how I was feeling. It's my own archive full of things I love.

    At the end of the day you're doing it for you and nobody else, so try to ignore any negativity and keep your chin up.

    I love your blog and think what you've built here is amazing.

    <3

    xxx

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  28. This is my first time visiting your blog, I found this post from Bloglovin's popular posts.
    I completely understand how you feel, as lately I've been feeling the same about blogging.
    I've been blogging since 2011, when I started it was for fun, I had so much energy. Now I feel that maybe I am wasting my time and efforts on my blog. I get discouraged when my posts go unnoticed and seeing that my blog hasn't grown. Seeing other bloggers' success and comparing to yourself is hard. Of course I know that there no point comparing.. Anyway..
    I agree with you regarding Bloglovin, it only promotes only certain big bloggers who have already made it. It's hard for readers to learn about smaller blogs.
    I feel that once you made it in blogging that's it. The content and quality of your posts don't matter anymore. You will get comments still just because you are a big blog (which is sad).
    Blogging now is about who has a more expensive DSLR and takes magazine editorial looking photos, it's about travelling and staying in fancy hotels, attending fashion shows etc...
    I agree with you if something doesn't excites you anymore there's no point doing it...
    Best of luck with anything you decide.

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    1. I just wanted to say I totally get where you're coming from, but if you really enjoy blogging don't give up just because of numbers or "competition" out there! I think at one point everyone has felt like that, but if you do enjoy it please don't give up. It's more of a mindset change than anything else. I have a VERY small blog but I really enjoy it and frankly I don't care about the rest of the world ;) I know there are a few people that enjoy my blog and I consider it a hobby, it also keeps me busy when I'm going through difficult times - and honestly, it makes blogging much more enjoyable. Btw what's your blog link? x

      Dressed in the City ♥♥♥

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  29. it's so sad to read this but I understand you. Blogging is now a huge competition to manage more followers but you have to do it like an interesting hobby. It's the best.

    www.mybeautrip.com

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  30. Aw, this was such an honest post - thank you! Take your time and get your enthusiasm back! Best wishes.

    Erin | Erin and Katherine Talk Beauty

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  31. This was my first time reading your blog what a sad post that you feel that the only option is to stop blogging the one thing you love it seems so unfair :/.

    Andrea

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  32. Thank you for your candor about what you are dealing with. It's never easy to be public about your thoughts and opinions as they will always get feedback. Some positive and some negative but that doesn't need to take your light away. Keep on shining and be your true self!
    Keri
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  33. I love reading your blog - it's one of my favourites - but I understand where you're coming from ... it is so much easier to remember the negatives. Unfortunately, people will always be jealous of other people's success. It's so much easier to sit behind a keyboard and hate than it is to work hard and create something successful. Blogging should be a fun hobby where people can let off steam or chat with like-minded people and it's a shame that all that bitchiness and nastiness has crept in.

    Like I said, I love reading your blog and I hope you keep it up, but you should do what makes you happy.

    xo

    http://beewritesx.blogspot.com

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  34. As one of my favourite bloggers it truly has upset me to read this. I really hope that you follow your heart and decide what is best for you, but please know that I will always check back to see if you have posted anything new. I love Birds Words and it's such a shame that the blogging community (the nasty ones within it) have pushed you to feel like this. loves and hugs Beth! I'll always be a huge fan xxx

    www.bekylou.com

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  35. I agree with you that blogging now a days is all about the number of followers you have. For many it has turned into a market rather than a hobby and for those who it is a hobby this can be awful. I truly of hope that you begin to love blogging again but if not i hope you find a new niché that you're even more passionate about <3

    http://www.abigailalicex.com

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    1. That's what I don't like as well. I understand if people want followers, a high readership, money and opportunities. To be honest I monetize my blog and I use my blog as a way of building up my portfolio and gaining opportunities. However blogging should ultimately be about showcasing your passions. Unfortunately the blogging world has become so commericialised, and some bloggers seem to have lost their integrity, which was what the blogging world was based on in the first place.

      I do think the Bloglovin seems to favour bigger bloggers, making it harder for smaller bloggers to get noticed.

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  36. I've followed your blog for as long as i can remember - it was one of the first blogs i ever followed and has remained a firm favourite over the years. I've always admired your blog and this post made me so sad to read because it's seeing and reading your blog that always made me want to better my own.

    I agree with you completely though - blogging is nothing like it used to be and whilst it's improved in many ways, peoples motives have changed and it's all just one big competition to out do each other - it's not always as friendly and supportive as it seems. Luckily, i've never encountered much negativity with my blog but i know that should that happen to me, it would definitely have a big impact and affect me massively too. It's awful what you went through and that people doubted your integrity and that it's had such an impact on how you feel about blogging.

    I genuinely hope that this isnt the end for your blog because it truly is one of my favourites but you have to do what you have to do and if it is the end - then i wish you all the best!

    Natalie xx
    youralmostalice.co.uk

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  37. Hey! I somehow just came across this post and I loved reading ever bit of it. I just recently started blogging so I can't say I can relate to how it was in the past but I can definitely attest and relate to how it is now. I keep a personal diary and I wanted a new platform to tell stories of my everyday life to my friends and family and anyone else that wants to read along, but when I first considered starting, it was tons of questions and pressure about the aesthetics of a blog or post or pictures that apparently triumphs content. I'm trying hard because as a newbie, everyone is making my desire to begin blogging as a competion to the top, but it's so refreshing to read posts like these from people who truly began blogging for the right reasons - for themselves.

    I know I haven't been an avid follower in your 4 years (I just honestly came across this post), but I do wish you all the best and if you do decide to begin blogging again, you've gained another supporter.

    Sincerely,
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    www.sincerelydj.com

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  38. hi, this is my first time to read ur blog, I like ur writing a lot, I can't read thing for too long I don't have much patience, but I read the whole long post from you here:)
    I don't feel too sad for ur thought of leaving blogging, because if you don't feel good about it, its reasonable to take a break.
    I really respect of u are being so honest about people nowadays all think quantity is a big deal than quality.
    This is what me, as a new blogger feel stress in this way.
    But, as a good/ successful blogger like you, I think if you miss the old blogging sociality and have something you don't like about it, I think you have a power to try to change this situation to be better :)
    I have a faith for you you can make it like a better place. Its easier for the a bloggers like you, who have a lot of followers and readers to listen to you, it s possible for you to make a different, maybe not say the whole blogging community (It would be too big to say), but maybe start from ur blog? Like encourage people not just read a big blog which have loads of followers but also encourage people to appreciate some small blogs???
    Sorry maybe I am saying bullshit but I hope you understand what I means. I think you have a power to NOT give it up but TRY TO MAKE WHERE YOU USED TO LOVE TO BE THE BETTER PLACE FOR YOURSELF or even everyone :)
    Sorry, my English is not good, but I hope I didn't offence you.
    I LIKE YOUR BLOG, even though it is just my first time :)
    I am not alone, by the time I am frustrated how to possibly get more followers for my instagram so that I can make people start notice art works I try hard to make;
    By the time I frustrated about the balance between followers and quality of my posts, you encouraged me by your honesty.
    Hope to hear back from you
    :)
    I am not alone, so are you.
    x

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  40. I can really relate to this post. It's so tough to get that balance and I feel the same as you, that any post I write is doing it just for the sake of blogging. I really hope that you find the path you want to go down, and I would really miss your blog xx

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  41. To be honest I have just discovered your blog (I know where have I been?) but this post left me speechless. Not so long ago I started my own blog and I really had no idea what to expect and even right now this blogging world is still looking crazy to me. It is so easy to start comparing numbers with other more successful bloggers and that instead of motivating me made me want to give up even tough I enjoyed every second of writing a post I felt like I was talking to wall (and sometimes that was good but most of the time I felt a bit stupid). And right now it is so hard to get back on track cause I feel ignored by everyone and that is best demotivation

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  42. This is so sad to read. I read your blog sometimes and I love it, and would not think that you would ever do a thing like this. It is such as shame how people can bully and make nasty accusations without knowing the full fact. It is rather spiteful, but rumours are spread by fools anyway.

    I love blogging and I have not had to deal with any negativity yet - my blog is relatively new and I has a very low readership and a small number of pageviews - but I have dealt with a lot of negativity in my life, to the point out where I have had to leave certain groups/institutions, and that is not nice at all.

    Forget the haters - take a break and come back if/when you are ready.

    And I agree with what you said - I have been reading blogs for almost 3 years now and it is a shame how much it has changed. There is so much pressure to blog a certain way and there is more focus on statistics and having loads of social media channels. It can get a bit too much for some bloggers but I think it is better to do what makes you feel comfortable. Even though I improve my blog from time to time and take on tips, I prefer to treat blogging as a hobby. I want to use my blog as a way of gaining opportunities but I know that will take time and hard work.

    It's such a shame to see how things have turned out. Your blog is so lovely and you are so genuine, I guess the blogging world is like Mean Girls/High school.

    Good luck with everything.

    http://trendscommentstyle.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Just to add:

      Your blog was one of the blogs I started reading - discovered through another blogger - when I first discovered blogging almost three years ago so to read this post was quite sad.

      Also, sometimes keeping your distance from things is a blessing in disguise. Keeping your distance from toxic people/behaviour/groups is often the best thing.

      :)

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  43. I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling about blogging lately. I'm not sure what kind of things have been said about you and your blog but something that we'll never be able to get rid of are these haters. I've seen Jaclyn Hill the YouTuber talk over and over about her haters and how they make her feel but its just one of those things where people think they can get away with saying whatever they want behind a screen. Thing is though, would they say it to your face? Something sad and pathetic about people online is that they feel they have more power over the Internet!

    I think maybe a solution could be that you make your blog a reader only blog for the time being, and the people who enjoy your blog can sign up. That way you don't ned to worry about the negativity from the trolls because your genuine followers will be reading your blog. But of course it's your decision.

    I keep reading posts about how blogging has changed and the thing is its going to continue to grow and evolve with times. It's scary to think where it'll end up tbh! Hope you get your blogging mojo back soon :)

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  44. The nicest person in the world will have haters too. I know it's easy to comment on how not to be affected by negative people or comments; I would be very distraught if I were you. But if you really love blogging, why not focus on the positivity? I believe your love for blogging will bring you back one day. Take a break for now and hope to see you back.

    https://sartorialisttoujours.wordpress.com

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  45. I've been wondering through your blog for around an hour - and I'm smitten! Your a wonderful writer and completely understand this post. I started my blog as a form of therapy and to make myself feel better but it does seem that what was a social thing has now been slightly tainted and not many bloggers support each other. Your an inspiration :)

    Much love
    Jess - juicyyyjesss@blogspot.com

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  46. Hunni this post spoke a thousand words to me. I'm feeling completely the same. I find it so sad that bloggers are giving up on truly wonderful blogs, but if your heart isn't in it anymore, then what's the point? <3 The community has changed so much over the years, it's so sad. I hope you find your way back to blogging when the time is right.

    Lots of love x

    www.hello-cat.blogspot.com

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  47. I know what you mean, blogging isn't the same, it just seems to be one big competition, blogger against blogger, it's wrong, no one blogs because they want to anymore, it's just about showing off, that's my feelings, it's a shame!

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  50. I totallt agree. I started blogging about 5 years ago and it was a much more carefree environment, hardly any catty comments, no-one judging your every word and spelling etc. In the last year my blog has seriously been lacking in posts, i've tried to shake things up and change what I do but it's not helping really. I've resorted to posting what I want, when I want which is what I done in the first place, but it's becoming very very infrequent.

    It's a sad day :(

    Lx

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  51. So sad to see you've not posted anything for a while. Maybe a much needed break is in order and you'll be back to doing what you do so well soon. Always an inspiration!

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